February 16, 2016

A New Look For FashionMamaAquarius.com



As some of you may have noticed, I have changed the look of my blog. This is something that I have been wanting to do for awhile because although I did all the previous template design, I wasn't entirely happy with how it looked. One of my goals for 2016 was to invest more time in my blog so here is one of the many steps towards that goal!

I hope to add a lot more content; fashion week reviews, designer spotlights, outfit photo shoots, local coffee shop reviews, style sets, minimalism and capsule wardrobe updates. I also hope to write about my journey in parenting, life and working towards financial freedom. I am hoping that this new content is something that my readers embrace and enjoy, so please give me any feedback that you may have because I do write for myself but I also write for you, my readers.

Lastly, I want to ask for your help! Please subscribe by email so you always get updates on my new posts, share any posts you love and follow on social media, it's the best way for me to get exposure for my blog and to increase my readers. I want to say a massive thankyou to everyone who regularly visits my page, you are amazing!


Erin
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February 13, 2016

Valentine's Day 2 Ways

Valentine's Day 2 Ways


Marni dress
1,795 CAD - nineinthemirror.com


Topshop black leather boots
150 CAD - topshop.com


Melissa black flat
125 CAD - nonnon.co.uk


Paula Cademartori leather handbag
2,225 CAD - net-a-porter.com


Vince leather purse
575 CAD - harveynichols.com


Diamond jewelry
175 CAD - pinkarrowsboutique.com


Eddie Borgo earrings
140 CAD - net-a-porter.com


Vivienne Westwood stud earrings
130 CAD - garmentquarter.com


Topshop stackable ring
20 CAD - nordstrom.com



Miu miu sunglasses
395 CAD - lanecrawford.com


Marc Jacobs tech accessory
82 CAD - bloomingdales.com


Skinnydip tech accessory
39 CAD - nastygal.com

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February 11, 2016

Fashion In The Face Of Frugality



So I have stopped my excessive spending, great! I have also stopped buying what I like to call "throw away pieces" (clothing or accessories that either fall apart in a short period of time, go out of style, or you stop liking), fantastic! Now where does this leave me in terms of my current fashion situation?

After cleaning out my closet a bit, I am now better able to put together outfits and I wear pretty much everything I have. My everyday basics are skinny jeans, a top (tank top, t-shirt, blouse) and a cardigan or sweater. Staying at home with my two kids does sometimes make me miss the days of working in an office and dressing up everyday, mostly because I have worn holes in the knees of all of my jeans from crawling around on the floor and I usually have some sort of food, paint or glue stuck to me by day's end.

As you may well know, I love the "fashion switch" (the beginning of spring/summer and then the beginning of fall/winter) so much so that I used to get my credit/debit card all revved up for the occasion; so the thought of not buying anything at all for another 10 months makes me die a little inside. Here are a few ways that I plan to look good for spring while still staying loyal to my cause:

1. Attitude Of Gratitude: I am trying to focus on the love and appreciation for the things I already have. This is the benefit of clearing out the stuff you no longer value, it emphasizes why the items that you chose to keep are special. There's something to be said for well worn items, like a well loved teddy bear, it may be a bit rough around the edges but that's why it's your favourite!

2. Live Vicariously Through Others: I love being able to sit out on a patio and people watch, especially when the weather gets nice, usually I use it as inspiration for my own wardrobe choices but now I want to try to just appreciate great street style through osmosis. This one might be tricky because for me, if I see that someone has something nice, it usually makes me want to go out and buy something new. So this one may require a bit more will power but I plan to use it as motivation so hopefully it will be more of a help than a hindrance.

3. Remix Your Closet: I'm going to really push myself to get a bit crazy with my existing wardrobe, mixing colours, mixing patterns, adding accessories, going to bold places that no Fashion.Mama.Aquarius has ever gone before, you get the point. Just try to wear things in a different way, that are not necessarily in your comfort zone.

4. Borrow, Thrift, Replace: If I do start to get antsy for something new, I'll try asking my sister or bff if they have anything they aren't wearing these days that I can borrow, it may just quell that need to spend and it's free! If you really need to "go shopping" because for some of us it is therapeutic, go to your local thrift or consignment shop and search for that perfect item but make sure it's quality, it has a purpose in your wardrobe and you can see yourself wearing it for a long time. Lastly replacing items, at least in my No Spend Rules, is allowed. You will need to have your own criteria for this but make sure it's actually a need, not just another impulse buy and it should also meet the quality, purpose and longevity rules mentioned previously.

5. What Would Audrey Do? Audrey Hepburn was so fabulous that she looked good in everything and anything so just use her as inspiration for your own personal fashion excellence. If you feel good about what you wear, it doesn't matter if it's new or old, people will only see how happy you are.

There you go! I'll keep y'all updated on how I actually go with this part of my challenge but I think mentally preparing and knowing my triggers is the key to success.

Sincerely


Erin
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February 05, 2016

Minimalism & A Good Old Shopping Ban (Updated)



Like many people out there these days, I too have stumbled upon the minimalism movement and, true to my band-wagon jumping nature, I'm on it.

Further to my New Year's update, I am one month into #frugal2016 and so far I have done surprisingly well. I've completely unsubscribed to all my favorite websites in an effort to deter myself from continually filling up online shopping carts with stuff that I don't really need. I have created a budget on paper and I am tracking my spending through the Mint app on my phone, which is not completely balanced but it's a start! I am on a one year long "No Spend" which is scary but I am starting to feel like it's totally achievable.

There are many ways to complete a no spend challenge, you basically write your own guidelines or you can follow ones that were created by someone else (see this article from Blonde on a Budget for ideas) If you want to write your own rules here are some ideas:

1. Decide how long you want to stop spending for: This would apply to non-essentials because obviously you will need to pay bills and buy food. I have decided to do this for a whole year but if you are accustomed to spending all the time it may be best to take it one day at a time and aim for a week then a month then two months and so on.

2. Write down what would fall under the essentials and non-essentials; for example no takeout coffee but you can buy beans to make it at home, no new skincare or makeup until you run out of that item, no new clothing unless something completely rips apart and you need another one, or if you spend a lot on takeout dinners and lunches then make it a rule that you must always bring your lunch.

3. Allow some flexibility or rewards for good behavior: Being too strict with yourself (unless you are in serious debt or unemployed) may cause you to feel too deprived that you end up in a binge-shopping situation. You could allow yourself a treat coffee from Starbucks maybe once a week/month, or promise yourself a new item if you can make it to the end of your challenge.

4. Make it a team effort! This no spend may be more challenging if you are doing with your boyfriend or husband but  you know what they say; misery loves company. If you are one of those people who like to look on the bright side, it may be worth having someone to motivate you and keep you honest while you endure this form of anti-retail torture.

5. Don't quit if you slip up! Keep going, I've noticed that part of this process is realizing what triggers your urges for impulsive spending and being aware of these thoughts makes it easier to avoid giving into them. So be kind to yourself if you have a moment of weakness.

6. Lastly focus on what matters, the good people in your life, without them life is pretty empty. Also focus on financial freedom, being debt-free gives you the power to spend on really awesome things like trips, home improvement and investing.

So how does minimalism play into my no spending? Well I really think they go hand in hand. I think it's the minimalist mindset and approach to living with less (and that the less you end up with is stuff you use, value, love and appreciate) that allows you to stop the mindless spending behaviors.

While I have struggled with the urges to spend (particularly online) I have done pretty well and I am proud of my progress thus far. I am also starting to delve a bit deeper into the "why" of my shopping addiction, when I have a thought, I recognize it and analyze it, then I occupy myself with cleaning, You Tube videos (on how to save, how to stop spending, how to live a minimalist life, how to invest and capsule wardrobes). One of my favourite new channels is Sugar Mamma tv! I spend time with my stuff, decide if I love it enough to keep it and if not, I get rid of it. I've also discovered podcasts such as Mo Money Mo Houses and Budgets and Cents which have been helping me to distract myself from shopping and get motivated to invest my money.

I've finally come to the place in my life where I realize that more stuff is not necessarily better, that the clutter is making me have serious anxiety because my house is constantly messy (two kids do not help with this) and the spending is making us broke. We are very close to be consumer debt-free and I realize that I want financial freedom more than I want the mini rush that shopping gives me.

I have gradually been going through my house and stripping it of all the stuff that I have been holding on to, simply because I felt bad getting rid of it. I will use that guilt that I feel, having paid money for something that I didn't truly love, to motivate me to avoid making impulse purchases in the future. Also to avoid buying things that are not good quality, after all I can't afford to buy cheap! With the way the economy is going, I think having money in the bank and in my purse, is much more savvy than 10 designer handbags waiting in my closet for their turn, or a pair of heels that may get worn twice a year.

I hope that other people are inspired to try this if only just for a month, You Tube has so many videos on this subject or you can google minimalism, 30 day challenge, no spend challenge, etc.

Until next time!

Erin

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